To My Almost 13 Year Old

 

Sweet Averi Kate. How is it that my little fairy child is going to wake up as a teenager tomorrow morning?

You've kept me laughing since you learned to talk twelve years ago. You are so witty, and the way you slip into different accents during everyday conversations just adds to the humor. Your favorite activity is ANYTHING as long as you can be with your friends. You are happiest when you are creating, and your worst fear is doing something "boring" or "meaningless."

You are so talented in countless ways. Your hands are incredible - the way you can crochet at lightning speed or take scraps of material lying around the house and turn them into something amazing. You are so skilled at playing the piano - the only trouble is slowing you down long enough to play what's actually on the page before your hands take over and start playing what your ear hears rather than what your eye sees. I hope you find deep joy in music over the years.

You love volleyball and soccer and acting. You argue almost every day that it is "pointless" to do Latin or math. You're wrong, but your persistence in this matter shows your heart to do things that really "matter." You love doing the important work of helping people and solving real life problems. You are still the official "finder" in our house whenever something goes missing. Your memory is sharp and your will is so strong.

When I look at you, I see a heart of kindness, a deep well of emotion, and a beacon of joy. I see a little fairy girl who has always marched to the beat of a different drum, becoming a young woman who is beautiful on the inside and the outside, who is a difference maker, who still leaves a little bit of "sparkle" and joy wherever she goes.

Aves, you are a delight. You are one of my most favorite gifts. Your name means "wise" and "pure", and I pray so earnestly that you will grow in wisdom and purity, in grace and knowledge of our Savior, and in confidence of who you are in Christ. I know you have big dreams and desires. Seek first His kingdom and He will give you exactly what you need.

I can hardly believe I am saying this, but...Happy birthday, my almost-thirteen-year-old!

To My Almost 10 Year Old

 Owen. I really like you at almost 10 years old.

You are one of the funniest people I know. You slide your quiet sarcasm and quick wit into conversations and leave me laughing every day. You can be wild and crazy with your friends but also treasure quiet time at home. You ask me every day to play football with you because I am the best quarterback in the county.

You are one of the most talented people I know. You can do anything you set your mind to. Tennis, baseball, basketball, golf...Your coaches always comment on your skill, coordination, and humble attitude. Or how about running 10 miles with your dad in honor of your tenth birthday? Yes, you did that too. 10 MILES. Buddy, you know that's not normal, right? And yet you acted like it was no big deal. That's you - hit a home run, make a crazy infield play, drive a golf ball 155 yards, go on a 10 mile run - and then walk off like nothing even happened.

You are one of the deepest people I know. You have a philosophical mind and a tender heart. You read poetry and write songs. You love to read about real stories - athletes, missionaries, historical leaders. I treasure your questions because I know they always come with much thought behind them.

You are one of the most sincere people I know. You are who you are and you don't pretend to be anyone but you. You love fishing and you hate watching sad movies. You make friends with old guys at sporting events. You wear a baseball jersey every day and you love picking which radio channel to listen to in the van.

Bud, you are a joy. I love watching you grow up and pray every day for you to be a man after God's own heart, strong and courageous and wise. I love watching you become who you are.

Happy birthday, my sweet almost 10 year old!

To My Almost 15 Year Old

Claire-bear, 15 seems too old and at the same time, just right.

What a year it has been for you. You've always been diligent, and your diligence paid off in a big way when you were chosen to receive a scholarship to train at the Rafa Nadal Tennis Academy in Mallorca, Spain, this past September. The thing that I savored the most was that all the coaches who worked with you saw, beyond even your talent and skill in tennis, a heart that exemplified the character they were trying to promote: effort, humility, respect, intensity, and discipline.

I thought maybe a trip to Spain would satisfy your heart, but instead I believe it lit a fire. You want to travel the world, to see and taste and experience the fulness of every moment. You love having a purpose, a goal, and throwing yourself into it with everything you have. You are courageous and bold and always up for an adventure, and I'm afraid you are going to leave me before I am ready for it.

Car conversations with you are my favorite. You are a good listener and full of wisdom. I love hearing your perspective on all matters. I love seeing your faith grow, watching you seek the Lord and His will for your life, hearing you wrestle through issues, watching you make thoughtful decisions.

You are a quiet leader, a loyal friend, a non-quitter. You broke your foot last December and still played three basketball games before we finally realized it was actually broken. You had mono this summer and still led your team to win the state junior team tennis championship before we realized that it was actually mono. I don't really know anyone else like you.

I know these next few years are going to fly by, but I am so deeply grateful for a front-seat view to watch you becoming who you are. Keep growing in the grace and knowledge of Jesus. Keep trusting Him and acknowledging Him in all your ways. 

Happy birthday, my sweet almost-fifteen-year-old!!!

 

To My 12 Year and 1 Day Old

 AK, I hope you will forgive me for being two days late with your "birthday eve" letter for the first time ever. I think you will, because the reason I was late was because we were off skiing and hiking and horseback riding and splashing in creeks. In fact, I can't think of a more perfect way to celebrate your 12th birthday.

A weekend full of fun and adventure was exactly right, because you are all about fun and adventure. You are motivated by fun, and you bring fun with you wherever you go. I teach your grammar class at school and it is hopeless to try to keep a straight "teacher" face when you crack the most off the wall jokes. I love talking with you in different accents in the car. You love making people laugh, and you are good at it.

You have mad skills when it comes to creating anything out of anything. I am terrible at planning things like Halloween costumes or Valentine's boxes for school, but it's fine because you can take a cardboard box and make a vending machine costume complete with snacks to share with friends, or a human size tree complete with a hole in the trunk to deposit Valentines. Your fingers move faster than I can even follow with my eyes when you are crocheting, and you can turn a ball of yarn into a small woodland creature before I even realize you are working on a new project. You are a night owl and stay up later than me, dreaming of new things to create.

You love acting and soccer and piano. You have rhythm in your bones and have played percussion twice now in front of a crowd, once with me at the widows' banquet at our church, and once with the band at youth group.

You are most at home when you are helping. You wear your feelings on your sleeve. You love all animals, especially dogs and horses and axolotls (???), and they love you too. Well, I don't know about axolotls, but definitely horses and dogs love you. You are beautiful and fun and precocious and deeper than people might realize. You are growing in every way. You are one of the best gifts I have ever been given.

I see the image of God in you - in your joy and laughter, in your skill and creativity, in the way you help others, in your music and emotions. My prayer for you on your 12th birthday is that you would live in all the blessings of one who knows, loves, and fears the Lord, and that you would be fully convinced of who you are and whose you are.

Happy birthday, my sweet 12-year-and-1-day-old!!!

To My Almost 9 Year Old

Owen, you are almost nine!!! Last year in single digits...I can hardly believe it. At almost nine years old, I see so much good in you.

I see an ability to rise to the occasion whether in baseball, tennis, football, or whatever it is you are doing. You have the ability to focus and though you make it through practice, you live for the game. You broke your leg in a football game this year and still played two more quarters to finish out the game before we knew you had broken it!

   

I see humor and a quick wit in you. You crack one-liners that make me laugh out loud almost every day. You are shy around people you don't know so well, but so very silly with your friends. You and your friends at school call each other "the Billy Bobs" and have a secret handshake. I never know what you are going to call our dog Lucy from day to day - it could be anything from "Vanessa" to "Tootsarinka."

I see a deep well of thought and understanding in you. You can be so absent minded when it comes to practical matters, but I think it's because your mind is always considering some deep matter. You love reading Bible stories at night and writing prayers in your journal. With your philosophical spirit, you can be a little melancholy sometimes...I asked you recently whether you thought life was mostly happy or mostly sad, and after thinking a little while you said, "Well, the sad parts seem like they last longer." I know how that feels - but we will keep living in hope, bud.

I see a tender heart in you. You feel things deeply and notice what others are feeling as well. You work hard to push past your fears and disappointments. You find joy in routine and tradition. You can get lost for hours in an imaginary game of baseball or war. 

You are so smart and kind, buddy. You're silly and serious, and I can't get enough of watching you become who God is making you to be. Keep trusting Him, bud. The verse we repeat to each other habitually is "Have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous. Do not be terrified; do not be discouraged. For the Lord your God will be with you wherever you go."

And He is, buddy. Before you and behind you, and all around you. Be strong and courageous.

Happy birthday, my almost-nine-year-old!